waves

The waves of grief come and go, in and out like the tide. Some days you can feel the comfort in the calm and actually catch your breath. Other days you can completely be struggling to stay afloat. Everything can be smooth and peaceful, and then out of nowhere a tsunami can hit and totally knock you down and under. Over and over this seems to happen in the early days of grief. But as time passes and you start to stay on top of the water, it seems the distance between those big waves spreads out. Slowly but surely, you start to realize that in order to tread, you can’t fight it. Surrender to what is, and allow yourself to float. Accept that those waves will never, ever stop completely, but they will subside from time to time. And on those days when your head is above water, take a moment to really truly be in the present moment. Know that these overwhelming waves of grief won’t last forever. Just like the tide, they forever come in and back out, ebbing and flowing. When you’re having a really hard time with your emotions surrounding your grief, remember this too shall pass. You won’t always feel so overwhelmed and under water forever. Have faith that your loved one wants you to find peace in the way things are and they are always available to send you a life preserver, when you need a little extra help to ride the waves.