change of plans

So many times in life, things don’t always work out exactly as we plan. Being able to roll with the punches and not sweat the small stuff doesn’t come easy to me. I like to plan things exactly, and when things don’t go as planned, I tend to freak out a little bit. Now that I have been through the worst possible change of plans, I try to look at things differently, but it is still hard. When a loved one passes, this is the ultimate change of plans, a change we did not want to happen. That is one of the many parts of grief, having to come to terms with a change we did not want. But the reality is, somethings are out of our control and no matter what we want to believe, we are not powerful enough to change the plans of someone else’s destiny. Maybe if we accept that we are not responsible for our loved one who has passed and that they had plans of their own, we can let go of some of the angst and guilt we feel around their passing. Perhaps their plans played out exactly as they intended for their own soul’s journey. In this game of life, we really can’t plan everything to always go the way we want it to go. The only thing we can plan on, is planning on a change of plans. That’s just the way it goes, that’s life….