grain of sand

It can be easy to get stuck on the memory surrounding the day your loved one passed. The event can certainly be traumatizing to say the least, and in that trauma sometimes we get stuck in a loop, replaying it over and over again in our head. Not only is this painful, but it is not how your loved one wants to be remembered. In the early days of my grief I spent a lot of time walking up to the beach to clear my head and quiet my thoughts in deep contemplation. I feel most connected to spirit when I am outside in the fresh air and sunshine with my bare feet firmly grounded in the sand. There is something almost magical about the beach that really, truly soothes my soul. One day as I was meditating on the beach, talking to my son in spirit, he gave me a beautiful message. He asked me to imagine every single grain of sand on the beach to represent a single moment of his life. He said the moment he passed out of his physical body was merely one grain of sand. He said I shouldn’t focus on that one grain of sand, or else I would miss the beauty of the entire beach. His life was like the whole beach. This really put things in perspective for me. I shouldn’t focus on his passing, I should focus on his living. Don’t let the way your loved one passed define the way your loved one lived.